my only other advice is to do it as soon as you can. As soon as you get actually hurt by something you should set a boundary nicely . If it’s just a little annoying. then ok you can overlook it.
But if it genuinely hurt your feelings. you should set a boundary with it. Otherwise it will build up in the background and eventually lead to more and more arguments and bad feelings between the two of you.
If you don’t want to argue and fight in your relationship . you need to set boundaries when things happen. Again the key is like i’ve showed you it doesnt need to be scary or a tough talk . You can literally do it while hugging the other person or talking quietly. That’s actually the best way to do it.
Remember if they care about you they don’t need to be shouted at etc. They jsut need to be told gently that they hurt you and they will change.
If they don’t care about you. Shouting won’t change them. So its great to do it gently. Thus avoiding your own stress levels building. And then you can walk away from them anyway. Way easier than having a fight.
And if they have done something seriously bad. Then call the police. Don’t like try set a boundary with a crime. That’s not what they are for. They are for like little mistakes. Words they said that hurt and they said it out of anger or something. Not doing something they said theyd do. That type of stuff. Like normal relationship things. Not crimes lol.
God bless you all.
Z
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