Some advice on love

As ur big brother let me give u some advice please:

someone who loves you won’t lie to you. they will tell you the truth, even in situations where it will make them look bad. they will not lie to you about bad things they’ve done or want to do. but will be honest about it, and let you make the choice of how you react. They won’t trick you into a relationship you don’t want. Cuz they care about you as a human, not just a thing they own.

Someone who loves you won’t test you to make you ‘prove’ your worth to them. If someone is with you, it means they know what you are like as a person already. It means you don’t need to prove yourself to them. If they don’t like something about you they will tell you nicely, and if you won’t change it, they will find someone else that fits what they want better. No need for stupid testing games.
And the testing is just a way of making you feel shit about yourself so you will be easier to control and manipulate. Testing is for school, and you’re not in a fucking classroom.

Someone who loves you will never hurt your self esteem or self confidence on purpose. What this means is – they won’t make it a habit of throwing jabs at you. Even little ones. Instead they will do the opposite. They will say things that make you feel good about yourself. And make you feel safe. Abusers use the jabbing as a primary weapon so you feel like you can’t make decisions for yourself. It’s fucked. Someone who loves you wants you to feel great about yourself, they don’t want you to feel bad.

now of course we are human, and no one is perfect. But if these things above are done repeatedly. Even if nice behaviour is weaved in between, especially after you show signs of it hurting you, then listen, it’s time to find someone better to be with.

you are special, valuable, and loved. It’s good for us too to make sure we don’t do these things to other people.